So when I say she both didn’t do a very good job of teaching me how to be an adult and she also taught me everything I need to know about being an adult, you’ll know I’m not biased.
She was and is a great example. I was a senior in high school before I realized what my mom did every day. She went back to work that year and most of what she had been doing either didn’t get done or was done by me.
My mom taught me everything from how to fix a running toilet to how to run a load of whites. What I know about cooking, cleaning, and housework, I largely learned from her. She made me do it, early and often, and I appreciate the lesson.
One thing she didn’t teach me was HOW. How she kept a perfect household when she was there. How she maintained a nearly-perfect household when she wasn’t there. How she got up every day and did the things.Â
I was in my thirties before I realized the truth. When she finally told me the secret:
She had to learn how to do it.Â
The answer to HOW was both super simple and completely complicated.
You learn.
I guess that’s what’s going on here. Learning. It’s a struggle, and it’s painful, but if there’s one thing I’m good at, it’s learning.
What are you learning to do this summer? How are your struggles interwoven with your successes?
I think this will be the third time I work on LUKE for a NaNoWriMo event. This time I hope to finish it.
It’s not exactly “not done,” it’s just not readable at this point.
The good news is when I am putting it together, the words are good and there and seem to want to be told.
I’m still struggling for ALIGNMENT (to what?), but I have been reminded over and over again that MY WORDS MATTER.
It matters that I put them out there. It matters that they’re there to read. It matters that I’m here.
LUKE hasn’t really been the struggle. It’s been everything from getting up to sitting down to work. There are several culprits, but none of them wants to take full responsibility at the moment.
I am moving on and moving through. I can do this. I know because I have done it before.
I’ve started over at the MORNING PAGES, just as I suggest you do. They have been very illuminating.
This week we add another task to our daily list. It would have been apropos a couple of weeks ago, but it fits here too. It is this: ACCEPT IMPERFECTION. This is not a perfect system and you are not a perfect person. We will, from time to time, get off track and have to start again. Whether you begin at the beginning or jump back in where you left off is your choice. The point is to keep going.
This last one is going to depend largely on how much writing time you have. Do you need to prep a week in advance? Or only a day? The point is you never sit down to write without knowing what you’re writing, whether that’s MORNING PAGES, your current work in progress (WIP), or a job you’ve been hired to do.
This week we’re going to do a lot of writing, so I would start by prepping your sessions for this current week.
Here’s the schedule:
DAY 1: WRITE 20 min.
DAY 2: WRITE 20 min.
DAY 3: REST
DAY 4: RESEARCH
DAY 5: WRITE 20 min.
DAY 6: WRITE 25 min
DAY 7: WRITE 25 min.
As you can see, we’re upping our writing days and our writing times. Even if you’re resetting like me, I encourage you to follow this schedule. It’s easier to jump right back in than start over, but don’t let that stop you from starting over if you need to.
In other words, if your space has become a mess or your tracking system is off, feel free to take a step back and reassess those areas first. Still doing MORNING PAGES? That’s another place to start over.
This week I want to focus on diving back into where we left off. If you didn’t do MORNING PAGES today, do them now. Write your 20 minutes now. Do whatever it is you need to do in the time you have now. After all, it’s all we’re guaranteed.
Next week I’ll be back with week three’s writing routine. If you’ve had to start over, like me. Don’t worry. You can do it. We all can. It’s been my pleasure to be on this journey with you and to share my struggle. I’m glad we are in this together.
First, we’re going to add to our DAILY tasks. MORNING PAGES TRACKING
That’s right. Now you’re going to begin your writing time with MORNING PAGES and end it with TRACKING. Each writing session should begin with getting your thoughts out and end with what you have accomplished.
This week we’re going to start out WRITING:
DAY ONE: WRITE 15
DAY TWO: WRITE 20
DAY THREE: WRITE 15
DAY FOUR: WRITE 20
DAY FIVE: REST (you still get to do morning pages and tracking :))
DAY SIX: PREP for next week. Get ready; this is our next daily task. Again, if you’re following the weekly plan, I’ve already done this for you, but you’re still responsible for your schedule.
DAY SEVEN: RESEARCH. Make a list of all the questions that have come up in your writing . That’s all. Just make the list. We’ll spend more time on it next week.
Not too bad, huh? I bet you made it just fine. What else can you do this week?
Let me know how it’s going for you. See you next week.